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Go Ahead And Sing!

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

Go vertical with your gaze once in a while, and you’ll see that God is still in control. Do that as the regular practice of your life, and you will find that you have much to sing about. Now this is not a proverbial whistling past the graveyard, it is an act that not only expresses faith, that not only builds faith, but it is an act that actually releases even more faith into your life. So you should sing—a lot!

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 22:1-23

Then David spoke to the Lord the words of this song, on the day when the Lord had delivered him from the hand of all his enemies, and from the hand of Saul. And he said: “The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; The God of my strength, in whom I will trust; My shield and the horn of my salvation, My stronghold and my refuge; My Savior…”

David sang a lot! We don’t know how good of a singer he was, but who cares. He didn’t. Besides, he was king, so who was going to tell him he didn’t have a good voice. And while we don’t know if he could carry a tune, we do know that he could really write those tunes. Many of them are still topping the charts thousands of years after the fact; they are sang by millions of people around the world every Sunday when congregations sing the psalms.

David sang a lot! And why not? God had bailed him out of bad times early and often, and he was grateful. Whether it was deliverance from a lion or bear, or from a king named Saul or a giant named Goliath, or from his own personal sin, his gratitude for God’s lovingkindness often spilled over the containment walls of his being. And he sang.

I think you should too. It is good for you. It releases more faith when you lift up your voice in praise. It elevates your mood, minimizes your problems, and sends shockwaves into the unseen realm where your Enemy resides, causing him to quake in his boots. And I would argue that like David, you should make up your own songs. They may never be sung by others, or even known, but they are powerful because they come from your heart, and from your fresh experience with the lovingkindness of God. They remind you of who God is and who you are; of what he has done and what he will do. That is precisely why you should sing—a lot!

Furthermore, singing songs of praise is not meant just as a response to God for his goodness in the good times. Singing is an act of faith in the challenging times that recognizes a higher reality than the one you see in your horizontal view-finder: That God is King—he always was, and always shall be. Given that, you should sing—a lot!

Go vertical with your gaze once in a while, and you will see that God is still in control. Do that as the regular practice of your life, and you will find that you have much to sing about. Now this kid of singing is not a proverbial whistling past the graveyard, it is an act that not only expresses faith, it is an act that actually releases even more faith into your life. Singing is calling into your present reality the greater, more real, infinitely powerful reality of eternity. Singing praises invites the presence of God and invokes the power of God in your life. So you should sing—a lot!

So if you want to squeeze every ounce of joy out of the good times and have more faith for the troubling times in life, sing! Go ahead, I am not joking, and belt out a tune.

Going Deeper With God: What has God done in your life lately? What do you have to praise him for? What about him causes you to be grateful? Write it down in the form of a song. You may never publish it, but you should certainly sing it, at least in the privacy of your prayer closet. Make up your own tune, and don’t worry if you are on key or not. God is your audience of one, and he will love it!

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Repairing The Past

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

There is much debate these days over reparations for the national sin of slavery. People seem to take polar opposite sides on this one, but is this something that we seriously need to consider? Could it be that much, not all, but much, of the racial tension and hostility today has roots in the unaddressed shame of what happened to our brothers and sisters of color during slavery? But let’s not stop there: what about the treatment of Native Americans? What should we do with the more recent holocaust of millions of innocent pre-born babies that have been slaughtered through abortion? Whatever the issue, God has given us a process to restore his blessing upon our lives: repent and repair.

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 21:1-3

During the reign of David, there was a famine for three successive years; so David sought the face of the Lord. The Lord said, “It is on account of Saul and his blood-stained house; it is because he put the Gibeonites to death.” The king summoned the Gibeonites and spoke to them. (Now the Gibeonites were not a part of Israel but were survivors of the Amorites; the Israelites had sworn to spare them, but Saul in his zeal for Israel and Judah had tried to annihilate them.) David asked the Gibeonites, “What shall I do for you? How shall I make atonement so that you will bless the Lord’s inheritance?”

What do we make of a chapter like this? God has revealed to King David that divine disfavor in the form of a three-year drought has afflicted Israel because of the sins of the former king. Specifically, King Saul had sorely mistreated the Gibeonites, a group of foreigners that Joshua had covenanted to protect during Israel’s subjection of the Promised Land. (Joshua 9:15) We don’t know what he did, but it was so morally offensive to God that he sent a drought, and it was so brutal that the Gibeonites wanted to take their revenge against the household of Saul. And God permitted it.

Again I say, what are we to do with that? I don’t know that any biblical scholar can give an adequate answer to that, and anyone who presumes to speak for God on the matter is probably wrong, but one of the insights that I have gleaned from reading the Old Testament is that much of the brutality we sometimes come across is frankly the result of what happens when men forget God. When the law of God is set aside, in the individual heart and in the national conscience, and there is no controlling moral authority, the people and their leaders begin to do what seems right in their own eyes. And that is always disastrous.

Another spiritual insight from this story is that God takes our covenants quite seriously. When we set aside what we have sworn to do because of the inconvenience it creates for us, or because we suddenly don’t like it, or we want to renegotiate our contract, or we are lured by a far better deal, we have become morally offensive to the covenant-keeping God. And there will be consequences. In the case of this chapter, Israel was now suffering, many years after Saul’s covenant violation.

Now as we fast-forward to the twenty first century, granted, America is not a theocracy like Israel. We do not have leaders who are God-hearted like Joshua and David. Our governmental leaders do not call for the high priest to consult the Urim and Thummin to determine the mind of God. In fact, a growing number of leaders want to do away with “the mind of God” completely and rely solely upon the best of human reasoning. Be that as it may, does God still hold us nationally responsible for violating his covenant in how we have treated groups of people? My sense is, yes he does.

There is much debate these days over reparations for the national sin of slavery. People and leaders seem to take polar opposite sides on this one, but is this something that we seriously need to consider? Could it be that much of the racial tension and hostility today has roots in the unaddressed shame of what happened to our brothers and sisters of color during slavery? But let’s not stop there: what about the treatment of Native Americans in the early days of our nation, or Japanese Americans during World War 2? And, in my opinion, what should we do with the more recent holocaust of millions of innocent pre-born babies that have been slaughtered through abortion?

Since God’s Word is true and unchanging, we can rightly assume that we suffer nationally and culturally today because of national sins for which both people and leaders have not repented. Now that doesn’t answer the question of reparations—and that is a very complex issue. But what I do know is that when we authentically repent, these seven steps must be taken:

  1. Acknowledge what I did by stating the offense. (“I did ‘it’”)
  2. Admit that I was wrong. (“I was wrong”)
  3. Express regret for my offense. (“I am sorry”)
  4. Ask: “Will you or when you can, will you forgive me?” Wait for their answer.
  5. Ask: “Will you hold me accountable? I give you permission to hold me accountable from now on.”
  6. Ask: “Is there anything else?” (With the intent, “Is there anything else you want to share with me or say to me that I may have done?”)
  7. Ask, “what can I do to make it up to you?” (As much as it is possible, be willing to make restitution.)

Of course, you and I cannot force our national leaders to do this, but we can pray that they will have the moral courage to figure it out. And, when we personally sin, or when we become aware that there is corporate sin within our family, we can and should follow these seven steps to God-honoring relational repentance.

What would happen if we covenanted to live this way, as individuals, in our families, churches, business, and for sure, in our nation? I think we would see a revival of God’s general grace upon us like never before.

Going Deeper With God: Reflect on Jesus’ words—then obey the prompting of the Holy Spirit: “If you’re offering your gift at the altar and remember someone has something against you, leave your gift at the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” (Matthew 5:23-24)

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It’s Warfare, Not Vacation

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

One victorious battle doesn’t mean the war is over. Defeating the Enemy in a spiritual skirmish does not mean he will suddenly go away with his tail between his legs, never to bother you again. To the contrary, he will usually double down in his attack and come at you again—often right away. That is just who your Enemy is and how he operates. Get used to it. C.S. Lewis described it this way, “The enemy will not see you vanish into God’s company without an effort to reclaim you.” And it will be thus until Almighty God throws Satan and his demonic hordes into the lake of fire at the end of the age—where they will remain forever and ever. So just keep that in mind: this is not a vacation, it is war! But it is a war you can win.

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 20:1-2

There happened to be a troublemaker there named Sheba son of Bicri, a man from the tribe of Benjamin. Sheba blew a ram’s horn and began to chant: “Down with the dynasty of David! We have no interest in the son of Jesse. Come on, you men of Israel, back to your homes!” So all the men of Israel deserted David and followed Sheba son of Bicri.

If you haven’t noticed yet, your Christianity is no vacation. Sorry to break it to you this way, but when you signed up to follow Jesus, you entered a battle of cosmic proportions, and you are a foot soldier. By the way, no matter how someone else recruited you to faith, Jesus was pretty clear about following him:

Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life[a] will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. (Matthew 16:24-25)

Now one of the things this means is that one victorious battle doesn’t mean the war is over. Defeating the Enemy in a spiritual skirmish does not mean he will suddenly go away with his tail between his legs, never to bother you again. To the contrary, he will usually double down in his attack and come at you again—often right away. That is just who your Enemy is and how he operates. Get used to it. C.S. Lewis described it this way,

The enemy will not see you vanish into God’s company without an effort to reclaim you.

And it will be thus until Almighty God throws Satan and his demonic hordes into the lake of fire at the end of the age—where they will remain forever and ever. So just keep that in mind: this is not a vacation, it is war!

King David found that out after his troops defeated the rebellion of Absalom. No sooner had the victory cheer ended when another rebel got on the bullhorn and pulled a significant number of troops from the Israelite army to follow him. Immediately, David was faced with yet another challenge to the kingdom, and as a battle-hardened warrior must, he dealt with it—decisively.

Until Satan is finally thrown into the lake of fire, spiritual warfare in the unseen dimension will continue to be a reality of your life and mine. Often, that unseen realm will spill over into the real world of our lives. But the good news is, we know the final outcome. God wins—Satan loses! And all who belong to God will be victorious.

In the meantime, as the battle rages, we would do well to stay alert to it, armor up, as Paul teaches in Ephesians 6:13, and fight the good fight!

Yes, the battle rages—all round you—but you are on God’s side and he is on yours, so get out there today, and go give ‘em heaven!

Going Deeper With God: Join me in this prayer today: Lord, before I begin my day I put on the whole armor of God. I am ready for battle, and I will not be unaware of the devil and his devices. I will fight the good fight and I will walk in the victory that you have already secured for me. I will overcome.

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Getting Called Out

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

We need someone to call us out when our thinking, feeling and acting cause us to veer off the path of faith. That person is God’s gift to us, a true friend. But we will not have friends like that unless we invite them in, invest trust in their godly wisdom, and then give them permission to treat us roughly when we need it. One of the unavoidable essentials for healthy living is to have people who will speak the truth in love when we are acting in ways that are contrary to the will of God.

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 19:5-7

Joab went to the king’s room and said to him, “We saved your life today and the lives of your sons, your daughters, and your wives and concubines. Yet you act like this, making us feel ashamed of ourselves. You seem to love those who hate you and hate those who love you. You have made it clear today that your commanders and troops mean nothing to you. It seems that if Absalom had lived and all of us had died, you would be pleased. Now go out there and congratulate your troops, for I swear by the Lord that if you don’t go out, not a single one of them will remain here tonight. Then you will be worse off than ever before.”

Do you have a friend who will call you out for inappropriate behavior? I hope so. You and I need at least one person in our lives that will speak the truth in love when we are acting in ways contrary to the will of God. Now those contrary ways might be out-and-out sinful behavior, but it could also be shrinking back in fear, moping in self-pity, or failing to see the hand of God in some difficulty we are experiencing.

Whatever the case may be, we need somebody to call out our thinking, feeling and acting when we are veering off the path of faith and into the ditch of shortsightedness. But we will not have people like that in our lives unless we invite them in, invest trust in their godly wisdom, and then give them permission to treat us roughly when we need it.

Joab was that kind of friend to King David. The king had just lost his son Absalom in battle. Absalom had usurped the throne and led a rebellion against David that had resulted in the loss of many Israelite lives. The troops loyal to David had rescued the king and saved the nation from civil war, but in the process, the king’s son, his favorite son, had been killed. And now David was mourning the loss of Absalom to the point that the hard-fought victory seemed like a defeat to those who had put their own lives on the line for the king and the kingdom.

Joab risked his reputation, job and life to call out the king for his shortsighted behavior. To make this brave act all the more impressive, keep in mind that King David had a history of not responding too well to this kind of bad news. (cf. 2 Samuel 1:1-15, 4:1-12) But Joab had the heart of a lion, and he knew that if he didn’t shock the weeping king into more kingly behavior the kingdom would be lost. So he called out the king, the king responded, and the kingdom was saved.

Who is your Joab? Have you invited a trustworthy friend to speak hard truth into your life whenever they see the need? I would not advise that you give too many people this privilege, and for sure, do not invite the first on your friend list into this role. You will regret it if you do. But find someone who is wise, experienced, godly, and who loves the vision God has for your life more than they care about being popular with you 24/7.

Prayerfully select someone like that, and then give them the keys to the front door of your heart. Believe me, they will steer you out of the ditch of short-sight thinking, harmful emotions and sinful actions at some point in your life.

When God gives you your Joab, thank God, and thank your Joab, early and often. They are a gift!

Going Deeper With God: If you have a “Joab” in your life, make contact with them today and reaffirm their role in your life. If you don’t, begin to ask God to show you a wise, godly, and bold person who could fill the Joab role.

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With Friends Like That…

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

The temptation we all face is to surround ourselves with people who make us feel good but don’t advance the will of God in our lives. We’ll never grow past character flaws and personality weaknesses if we don’t have people speaking truth into our lives. Proverbs 15:31 says, “He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise.” There’s an old Jewish proverb that says, “A friend is one who warns you.” As uncomfortable as they may make us at times, thank God for people like that.

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 18:14-16

“Enough of this nonsense,” Joab said. Then he took three daggers and plunged them into Absalom’s heart as he dangled, still alive, in the great tree. Ten of Joab’s young armor bearers then surrounded Absalom and killed him. Then Joab blew the ram’s horn, and his men returned from chasing the army of Israel.

You have heard it said, “With friends like that, who need enemies?” That was Joab, the ruthless general of King David’s army, a loyal associate and a relative. But did I mention he was ruthless?

Joab served David well in the king’s rise to power. He was with him from the beginning, had slept many a night in cold, dank caves when David was on the lam from Saul and had fought fiercely in battle to protect David’s very life. Though he was a general, in reality, his was a “loyal lieutenant.” He was an effective chief of staff that carried out the commands of the king that the king himself would not have the stomach to do.

Which meant at times, Joab disobeyed public orders to ensure the personal well-being of the king and the kingdom were advanced. That is what he did in this chapter when he disobeyed a direct order from King David and killed the king’s rebellious son, Absalom. Why did Joab do that? The Quest Study Bible sums it up this way,

As David’s general, Joab was to safeguard the interests of the kingdom. David, motivated by a father’s love for his son, was more concerned about Absalom. Joab saw Absalom as a dangerous rebel who would continue to threaten the kingdom as long as he lived. David saw Absalom as a reckless young man who had made a foolish mistake. David hoped his son would change as he grew and matured. Joab’s single-minded determination to preserve David’s throne led him to disobey a direct order.

Was Joab a righteous man? Will we see him in heaven some day? I don’t know—that one is above my pay grade. But I do know that at times we all need “friends” that will help us do the right thing—as uncomfortable as that is. We all need people who will speak hard truth into our lives, who will be willing to risk difficult conversations to tell us we have spinach in our teeth.

The temptation we all face is to surround ourselves with people who make us feel good but don’t help us to become righteous. We’ll never grow past character flaws and personality weaknesses if we don’t have people speaking truth into our lives. Proverbs 15:31 says, “He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise.” There’s an old Jewish proverb that says, “A friend is one who warns you.” As uncomfortable as that is, thank God for people like that.

You don’t just need a lot of friendly people in your life, although having friendly people around is a good thing. What you most need are godly people who’ll come alongside you and call out God’s best in you. Proverbs 27:17 says of these kinds of friendships, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”

You and I need friends like that —friends who are unconditionally loving yet absolutely committed to growth in our character through loving honesty. I like how the Good News Bible translates Proverbs 27:5-6, “Better to correct someone openly than to let him think you don’t care for him at all. Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder—watch out!”

That’s not a declaration of open season for brutal honesty, but it does speak of the vital connection between the health of our whole being and the difficult conversations needed to get us there—and God’s gift of true friendships that makes it possible.

Going Deeper With God: Much of Proverbs up to this point has called us to accountable relationships—to develop friends and partners who will call out God’s best in us and hold our feet to the fire in terms of our personal and spiritual growth. Instead of challenging you yet again to get friends like that, let me challenge you to be a friend like that. Think about what it will take to become that kind of friend (which doesn’t happen overnight—it takes a track record of love, faithfulness and encouragement) and who it is that really needs you to be that kind of friend (believe me, God has at least one candidate for your friendship). Be a friend!

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Giving God Space To Work Out His Plan

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

Give God a chance. He will confuse the plans of the Enemy, even when those plans are, humanly speaking, better than yours. When God is fighting for you—and he always is if you have placed your trust in him—you will ultimately win because his will for you is unstoppable. What will look like the end of the road will open up to a new path that the Lord has set before you. That is God’s promise, and he is always faithful to his promise.

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 17:14

Then Absalom and all the men of Israel rejected Ahithophel’s advice for Hushai’s. They said, “Hushai’s advice is better than Ahithophel’s.” For the Lord had determined to defeat the counsel of Ahithophel, which really was the better plan, so that he could bring disaster on Absalom!

What an amazing statement: the Lord had determined to defeat David’s enemy. Now that is the kind of condition under which I want to live my life and serve my God. To have God fighting on my behalf, even turning better plans the Enemy might have to defeat me down a dead-end ally so that his plans can prevail—that is what I call undeserved grace. And I will take it.

David was going through the roughest season of life imaginable—and it was his own doing. He had sinned grievously against the Lord: he had committed adultery with Bathsheba, had her husband murdered to cover up her pregnancy, hid his sin for months, and then mismanaged the rest of his family when the consequences of his sin unleashed a tidal wave of rebellion among his children. Now Absalom, his favorite son and heir apparent, had usurped his throne and had peeled off one of David’s most trusted counselors, Ahithophel, to now actively plot against the king. The uprising was so strong that David had fled Jerusalem with his entourage, and at this moment, with Absalom mounting an attack against him, it looked like David was a goner.

But not when the Lord is working on your behalf. Even when the situation is your own doing, the Lord doesn’t abandon his plans for you. Your mistakes might delay his plans or detour them a bit, or a lot, but God has committed to complete that which he has promised to do: “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” (Philippians 1:6) The great hymn writer John Newton put it this way,

We serve a gracious Master who knows how to overrule even our mistakes to His glory and our own advantage.

Let that sink in: God is fully and forever committed to his work in you. And along the way, he knows that he will have to delete your mistakes and redirect your life to get you back on track, probably often. But that is who God is and that is what God does—thankfully. In the 1700’s, Colonial missionary to the American Indians David Brainerd wrote in his journal,

There is a God in heaven who over-rules all things for the best; and this is the comfort of my soul.

Yes, that is quite comforting. And it is true. That is why you must learn to give God a chance. He is committed to working out his will in your life. Of course, you have a part to play—and your loving obedience greatly helps. And when you blow it, immediate and sincere repentance goes a long way to smooth the road toward your divine destination. Yet even still, as God is inexorably working out his plan for your life, so is Satan. Which means that you will be tempted at times to take things into your own hands to overcome his efforts, or perhaps you will get so overwhelmed that you will want to surrender to the pressure he has put on you.

Don’t! Give God a chance. He will confuse the plans of the Enemy, even when those plans are, humanly speaking, better than yours. When God is fighting for you—and he always is—you will ultimately win because his will for you is unstoppable. What will look like the end of the road at times will open up to a new path that the Lord has set before you. That is God’s promise, and he is always faithful to his promise.

If I haven’t said it clearly enough, let me say it again: Give God a chance. He will fight for you along the way and he will bring his work in you to a glorious completion.

Going Deeper With God: Memorize Philippians 1:6. Throughout the day this week, quote that verse back to God as an acknowledgement of his promise and as a declaration of trust.

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Best Practice for Betrayal

ThanksLiving: 365 Days of Gratitude

Getting stabbed in the back makes you want to retreat into a protective shell; to not trust, or be vulnerable, or open up to God, or go to church. King David wanted to withdraw from his betrayal: “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove! I’d fly away and be at rest—I’d flee far away and stay in the desert; I’d hurry to my place of shelter, far from the tempest and storm.” (Psalm 55:6-8) But Biblical rest doesn’t refer to geography—it’s a place in the heart. “Getting away from it all” rarely results in leaving your problems behind. The best practice for betrayal is to take it to Jesus!

Going Deep // Focus: 2 Samuel 16:33

Ahithophel’s advice was like that of one who inquires of God. That’s how both David and Absalom regarded all of his advice.

The setting is Absalom’s conspiracy to usurp his father’s throne. Ahithophel is David’s confidant and counselor—a trusted friend, or so David thought. But Ahithophel didn’t just side with Absalom in the coup, chapter 15:10-14 says, he actually advised the son to pursue his father and kill him.

Absalom sent secret messengers to Israel’s tribal leaders saying, “When you hear the sound of the trumpets, say, ‘Absalom is king in Hebron.’” Two hundred men from Jerusalem accompanied Absalom, but knew nothing of the plot. While he was offering sacrifices, he also sent for Ahithophel the Gilonite, David’s counselor. So the conspiracy gained strength and Absalom’s following increased. Then a messenger came to David, “The hearts of Israel are with Absalom.” Then David said to all the officials who were with him in Jerusalem, “We must flee immediately, or none of us will escape. Absalom will move quickly to put the city to the sword.”

David was devastated by the events. Not only was his son usurping his throne, but his most trusted advisory and confident had turned on him. 2 Samuel 15: 30-31 describes the king’s intense emotional pain:

David fled barefoot, his head covered, weeping as he went. All the people covered their heads too and wept as they went. Then David was told, “Ahithophel is one of the conspirators with Absalom.” So David prayed, “O Lord, turn Ahithophel’s counsel into foolishness.”

Later on, David wrote a moving and insightful psalm about Ahithophel’s betrayal—Psalm 55:12-14, 20-21,

If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were raising himself against me, I could hide from him. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship as we walked with the throng at the house of God. My companion attacks his friends; he violates his covenant. His speech is smooth as butter, yet war is in his heart; his words are more soothing than oil, yet they are drawn swords.

An enemy—we can handle that; but how do you give grace when one you trusted was all sweetness and light to your face but sticking it to you when you weren’t looking? Consider what David did:

First, control the urge to withdraw. Getting stabbed in the back makes you want to retreat into a protective shell; to not trust, or be vulnerable, or open up to God, or go to church. David wanted to withdraw. He said in Psalm 55:6-8, “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove! I’d fly away and be at rest—I’d flee far away and stay in the desert; I’d hurry to my place of shelter, far from the tempest and storm.”

But Biblical rest doesn’t refer to geography—it’s a place in the heart. “Getting away from it all” rarely results in leaving your problems behind. The best practice for betrayal is to take it to Jesus! David quickly follows up in Psalm 55:16-17, 22,

But I call to God, and he saves me. Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and he hears my voice…Cast your cares on the LORD and he’ll sustain you; he’ll never let the righteous fall.”

Second, cultivate a rear guard. Betrayal is so emotionally depleting that we need to have people who’ll be our armor bearers. David had some guys who stood by him. In 2 Samuel 15:15 & 21, David’s men say, “We’re ready to do whatever the king chooses.” …Ittai said, “As surely as the Lord lives…wherever my lord the king may be, whether it means life or death, I will be there.” You need people who will cover your backside—so do what it takes to cultivate protective friendships.

Third, cherish the Backstabber’s unintended work. If you know the pain of betrayal from divorce, or abandonment, or abuse; if you know the pain of being humiliated, unfairly fired, marginalized, ridiculed or lied about; if you have been robbed of dignity and respect, and your betrayer can never really repay you, you have got to let go so you can grow. David did. 2 Samuel 15:25-26, he said to Zadok the priest,

Take the ark back to Jerusalem. If I find favor in God’s eyes, he’ll bring me back and let me see it and his dwelling place again. But if he says, ‘I’m not pleased with you,’ then I’m ready; let him do to me whatever seems good to him.

David was willing to accept that God’s deeper work might be at the sharp edge of the betrayers knife. Charles Spurgeon said, “I bear willing witness that I owe more to the fire, the hammer and the file than to anything else in the Lord’s workshop.” The truth is, the fire, hammer and file of a betrayal may very well be God’s tool of choice. That was true for David.

If you’re going through the pain of betrayal right now, remember, you are just walking where great people have walked before. From the Great Cloud of Witnesses (Hebrews 12), they will be with you. Most importantly, always remember what Paul said in 2 Timothy 4:17 during a time of betrayal,

God stood by my side and gave me strength.

He will do that for you too!

Going Deeper With God: Betrayal, treachery, backstabbing—call it what you will—it’s just a painful part of being human. If you are enduring that pain, refuse to withdraw. Instead, run to God. He has promised never to leave you nor forsake you.