What Every Man Wants

Most red-blooded American men want a trophy wife.  And every man deserves one!  Oh, not the kind you may be conjuring up in your mind right now—the kind of hot babe Hollywood has invented—with the aid of cosmetic surgeons, make up artists and photoshop, of course.

The one I’m referring to is the kind of woman Proverbs 31 talks about.  She’s a trophy gal not because she’s hot.  Guys, that’s a longer lasting and infinitely more rewarding kind of woman than the carefully coiffed and cosmetically crafted woman our sensual and selfish culture promotes.  That woman’s looks have a shelf life of only so long, you know—and while you’re enjoying her looks, if she doesn’t have a godly character to sustain her, those looks probably won’t be that pretty after all!

If you’ve got a woman of noble character, like me, you are a blessed man indeed. I’m doubly blessed with a woman of both beauty and grace. If you’re looking for a for a trophy wife, take my advice: Set you’re sites on noble character above all else. As Proverbs 31:30 says,

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Now listen fella, if the wife you have, in your opinion, is not a Proverbs 31 woman, here’s what I would suggest:  Begin to treat her as if she were, and watch what God will do.

And, perhaps most importantly, make sure your soon-to-be trophy wife has a sugar daddy husband in you.  Not the kind you’re thinking, but the kind the Bible calls you to be: a man of pure and noble character himself.  What kind of husband is that?

• He offers her a character that is morally pure: “your name [which represents character] is like perfume poured out [refined from all impurity].” (Song of Songs 1:3)

• He desires to know her, talk to her, listen to her: “Husband, dwell with your wife with understanding way.” (I Peter 3:7a NKJV)

• He refuses to control and pressure her into what he wants her to be: “Honor her, delight in her.” (I Peter 3:7b, Message)

• He serves and sacrifices for her: “Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.” (Ephesians 5:23, Message)

• He loves her just as Christ loved his bride, the church: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.” (Ephesians 5:23, NIV)

As a husband, if you’ll work on growing in those areas, your wife’s noble character will grow in response to the growth she sees in you. Even if she doesn’t, you are still accountable to be that kind of man anyway.

And if you are not yet married, work on being that kind of man, and dude, you won’t be able to keep the ladies away!

“Grow old with me!  The best is yet to be.”  ~Robert Browning

Winning At Life:

If you are a wife, develop a set of growth points from Proverbs 31.  If you are a husband, develop your set from Ephesians 5:25-33.